|Oscar Wilde's grave, Pere LaChaise Cemetery, Paris France|
then be a good person.
If you want people to speak of how you helped them when they really needed your help,
then be helpful.
If you want the funeral pews to be filled with people who loved you and had plenty of good testimonies of your kindness and your sense of humor,
then act accordingly.
If you want your kids to recall many wonderful experiences and not be hard-pressed to find one good thing to say about you,
then be a good dad.
But if you want the funeral pews to be empty with the exception of the pastor and your spouse who might be the only one tolerant of your behavior and made excuses for you , then be the opposite.