31 July 2012

I was blind but now I see.

Sometimes people behave in ways that have me thinking that that’s how they are, and that I just need to accept that flaw, or that limitation,  since we're close friends.  And so I accept it.
And then I find out that flaw, that limitation is only in regards to me and not to other friends.  Which in turn says a lot about how highly they regard me. 

Again, I must recite Maya Angelou's quote, when someone shows you who they really are, believe them
People keep showing me who they really are. I mean, they protest one thing to assure me of their realness and that they can be someone I can depend on if I ever need them (because the last thing I need are fake people or fair-weather friends) but their actions say the complete opposite.  Every single time.

I'm not perfect, but I do know that  my actions equal my words. 

Something to think about



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Keep on dancin'

  hard times require furious dancing.

                                         -alice walker





30 July 2012

Sharing a friend's Facebook status

Dear God,


Please give me the strength and the ability to detect shade whenever it’s being thrown at me.


Amen.


--Alex Al-Ouadim

25 July 2012

The Avtomat Kalashnikova, also known as an AK47

The AK-47 is a selective-fire, gas-operated 7.62x39mm assault rifle,first developed in the USSR by Mikhail Kalashnikov. It is officially known as Avtomat Kalashnikova .. It is also known as a Kalashnikov, an "AK", or in Russian slang, Kalash.

Design work on the AK-47 began in the last year of World War II (1945). After the war in 1946, the AK-46 was presented for official military trials. In 1947 the fixed-stock version was introduced into active service with selected units of the  Soviet Army.
 An early development of the design was the AKS (S—Skladnoy or "folding"), which was equipped with an underfolding metal shoulder stock. In 1949, the AK-47 was officially accepted by the Soviet Armed Forces
and used by the majority of the member states of the  Warsaw Pact.
The original AK-47 was one of the first true "assault rifles" to be manufactured, after the original  Sturmgewehr. Even after six decades the model and its variants remain the most widely used and popular assault rifles in the world because of their durability, low production cost, and ease of use. It has been manufactured in many countries and has seen service with armed forces as well as irregular forces
worldwide. The AK-47 was the basis for developing many other types of individual and crew-served firearms. More AK-type rifles have been produced than all other assault rifles combined.
The Germans were the first to pioneer the assault rifle concept, during World War II, based upon research that showed that most firefights happen within 400 meters and that contemporary rifles were over-powered for most small arms combat.. The Germans sought to develop a select-fire intermediate powered rifle combining the firepower of a submachine gun with the accuracy and range of a rifle.

After 10 years , the Federal Assault Weapons Ban  (signed into law by President Clinton) expired on September 13, 2004, as part of the law's sunset provision ( a measure within a statute, regulation
or other law that provides that the law shall cease to have effect after a specific date, unless further
legislative action is taken to extend the law. Most laws do not have sunset clauses and therefore remain in force indefinitely). There have been multiple attempts to renew the ban, but no bill has reached the floor for a vote.

The evil monster whose name I will not speak, was able to buy this same kind of assault rifle.It jammed during his rampage, apparently because of a problem with the 100-shot magazine feeding it. Had it not jammed, the massacre would have had more tragic and deadly consequences. He did pull out other guns to use.
Various news agencies are reporting that in the days since the movie massacre in Aurora, Colorado, firearms sales have spiked, not just in Colorado but across the nation. This begs the obvious question, and I'm sure you already know what it is.


I don't have a gun, and I don't want one. I don't have a criminal history. My background is squeaky clean. I would easily pass any background check for a gun.
I'm not in the military.
I have a right to own a gun, but what's to stop me or anyone from legally getting the same kind of assault weapon that that evil monster used? .

Not a damn thing, and that's the most criminal part of this story, that Congress allowed the assault weapon  ban to expire  without renewing it.The owners of these guns (like that evil monster) are intending to do major damage.

Now, something else to worry about.

24 July 2012

To Paris, with love

With the receipt of my passport in the mail yesterday, I can check one more thing off my list.  I'm one step (and one day) closer to my trip to Paris! I don't know if I told you all, but I'm going to Paris for my birthday in November. The flight has been booked.  I'm very excited. I'm currently trying to learn as much french as possible. I'll also have a 12 hour layover in Dublin, which I'm looking forward to as well.
I've always wanted to go to Paris. I never thought I'd go without my wife or my fiance or a girlfriend. I have neither, and with my luck, I doubt I'd even have a serious girlfriend by then, but this is going to be a  big birthday for me, and meeting friends at some dive bar wouldn't cut it. I needed to do something special, something big. I need to do it big, even if it's by myself. I have a friend in the UK so while I'm in France, I'll take the chunnel to see her as well. I'll be there for 2 whole weeks!
God willing, I will wake up in a hotel room in Paris, and be 50 yrs old. That's right, I will be old.  I feel older than I'd ever imagine I would feel at this age. That is because most of the things  I have dreamed of  and aspired to has not come to fruition yet. Perhaps being in Paris will soften the blow and give me some wonderful memories. Knowing my luck, I'll meet a woman with potential, 2 days before I return to The States.

Romney Adviser: President Obama Doesn’t ‘Fully Appreciate’ Our ‘Anglo-Saxon Heritage’

On the eve of Mitt Romney's arrival in London, one of his advisers made a remark that The Telegraph says "may prompt accusations of racial insensitivity."
That's a fair assessment. When explaining why Romney would have a better grasp of the relationship between the United States and the U.K., the adviser had this to say—
"We are part of an Anglo-Saxon heritage, and he feels that the special relationship is special. The White House didn't fully appreciate the shared history we have."
Obama, of course, has a different heritage, as his father was African.
This is only the latest dig at Obama's heritage by the Romney campaign.
Last week, Romney campaign co-chair John Sununu said Obama "has no idea how the American system functions, and we shouldn't be surprised about that, because he spent his early years in Hawaii smoking something, spent the next set of years in Indonesia, another set of years in Indonesia..."
Sununu later added, "I wish this President would learn how to be an American."

--courtesy,  gawker.com

Excuse my french, but, what a fucking asshole.
Let me remind you, Mitt, that A)You are part Mexican,
                                             B) America is not and has never been "anglo-saxon",  and
                                             C) America as we know it was built on the backs of (and stolen from) non-Anglo Saxons, you fucking prick.

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23 July 2012

On today,

 in 1984,

Vanessa Williams, the very first Black woman to be crowned Miss America, had to  relinquish her crown because of questionable ( read s & m ) photographs to Suzette Charles, who was the runner up.

Earlier that year,the two judged the  most beautiful, most qualified candidates for the crown, were black women. Both were light-skinned, but black women, nevertheless. Never before has this ever occurred in the history of the pageant.



And it hasn't happened since. And will probably never happen again.



We all know that Vanessa Williams didn't shrivel up and die, fading into oblivion. She went on to record, star in movies, Broadway and television, and is very well respected in Hollywood circles. ABC is even working on a televison project following the series finale of Desperate Housewives.

  By the way, whatever happened to Suzette Charles?

Woe to those who make unjust laws...

Woe to those who make unjust laws
    to those who issue oppressive decrees,
to deprive the poor of their rights
    and withhold justice from the oppressed of my people,
making widows their prey
    and robbing the fatherless.

                                                            Isaiah 10: 1-2

Wisconsin Governor Scott Walker comes to mind ( as well as the entire Republican party)  when I read these verses.

From The Center For Media and Democracy's report ALEC Exposed In Wisconsin: The Hijacking Of A State:

Before Milwaukee County Executive Scott Walker ran for governor, he was a state legislator from 1993-2002, and he was an active member of ALEC. “Many of us, myself included, were part of ALEC,” he said in a 2002 interview. In addition to sponsoring ALEC’s Truth in Sentencing Bill (1997 AB 351), Walker attempted to privatize Wisconsin's prison system (1997 AB 634, 1999 AB 176, and AB 519), and sponsored early versions of anti-union legislation including “Right to Work” legislation (1993 SB 459) and “Paycheck Protection” (1997 AB 624). All these measures reflect long-standing ALEC bills and priorities.

After entering the governor’s office in 2011, Governor Walker called for the introduction of eight measures reflecting the ALEC agenda, listed as "by request of the Governor.” The first bill Walker called for upon taking office was Senate Bill 1 (which became Act 2), an “omnibus” bill that draws on numerous ALEC model bills to change liability rules and make it harder for Wisconsin families to hold corporations accountable when their products injure or kill.

When asked by the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel if Governor Walker relied upon ALEC legislation when putting together this “tort reform” bill, Walker’s press secretary Cullen Werwie replied “absolutely not.” But as the bill was pending in the legislature, ALEC sent an email to Wisconsin members stating that ALEC “supports this legislation which includes numerous provisions that reflect ALEC's civil justice reform policy and model legislation.” After Act 2 became law, ALEC issued a press release commending Walker and the legislature “for their immediate attention to reforming the state’s legal system.” Walker promoted the bill as needed to free the private sector to create jobs. Today, Walker has the worst jobs record of any governor in the nation, with Wisconsin ranking 50 out of 50 states in job creation.

Other bills Governor Walker requested that incorporate parts of the ALEC agenda include: Act 1 (Health Savings Accounts), a tax break that shifts cost burdens to individual policy holders; Act 9 (Super Majority Act), which would allow a minority of legislators to block a majority vote to raise taxes (supported by Grover Norquist’s Americans for Tax Reform, a long-time ALEC member); Act 10 (the Budget Repair Bill), which stripped most public workers of their collective bargaining rights; SB 13 (the Drug Liability Act), which would bar almost all suits by Wisconsin residents if a drug or medical device kills or injures a member of their family; Act 93 (the Trespasser Responsibility Act), which limits a property owner’s liability for injuries to another; Act 22 (Telecommunications Modernization Act), which deregulates the telecommunications industry; AB 14 (Interest Rate Judgment Act), which would have reduced the interest rate on court-ordered payments for Wisconsin families injured or killed by corporations; and Act 21 (Economic Impact Statement Act), which places hurdles on promulgating regulations, including regulations to ensure cleaner water and air for Wisconsin families.

Governor Walker has signed 19 ALEC-related bills and budget provisions into law. Many of these bills contain multiple provisions drawn from the ALEC playbook. In addition, Walker has received over $406,000 in recent years in campaign contributions from ALEC member corporations. Top ALEC corporate members that have contributed to Walker include: MillerCoors ($36,055), WellPoint ($34,200), Wisconsin Public Service Corp. ($28,364), Pfizer ($26,845), and AT&T ($22,875). [49]

--courtesy sourcewatch.org
I don't even want to post his picture.

 
 Who comes to mind for you, and why?

21 July 2012

Listening to ...




Your daily life

If your daily life seems poor, do not blame it; blame yourself that you are not poet enough to call forth its riches; for the Creator, there is no poverty.
--Rainer Maria Rilke

Why is it some people put themselves in peril to help others?

Tonight I was watching the show Nightline and their coverage of the theater shooting in Colorado. They had a story of two black men who were heroes, helping women with their children escape from the theater to safety. Then, while still talking about the tragedy, Diane Sawyer talked about the  7 year-old autistic girl who, earlier this week, was out on top of an air conditioner who fell  into the waiting arms of a bus driver below, another black man, named Steven St Bernard.
Diane Sawyer spoke about a man named Phil Zimbardo, head of the Heroic Imagination Project. He did  a study that,  though unpublished, yielded  some preliminary findings that gave me a feeling of pride. For example, people in cities were more likely to be reported taking heroic action then those living in rural areas. But what made me feel good was hearing that Black people were 8 times more likely to have done heroic deeds than caucasians, and Hispanic men- not women , were 2 times more likely than caucasians.
How come?
That segment of the show ended right there, with no explanation. 
This requires further review, for a future blog entry.

20 July 2012

Believe


believe in a love that is being stored up for you like an inheritance, and have faith that in this love there is a strength and a blessing so large that you can travel as far as you wish without having to step outside it.

--Rainer Maria Rilke

19 July 2012

Love 2 love

I love love, and the idea of it. I love seeing this couple love on each other. I can’t remember any of our past Presidents and First Lady’s ever showing affection. Not even the holding of hands. The chemistry between President Obama and The First Lady Michelle Obama is so strong that even when they’re not touching, you can tell that they can’t want to be alone.




I remember as a child, I so desperately wanted my mother to go out on dates…I wanted a father to do father and son things with , but also, I guess I was in love with the idea of love as a child. I wanted to see my mother be loved the way The First Lady is loved. I wanted someone to look at my mother the way The President looks at his wife.

I'm sure the bottom picture is in my blog a few dozen times.  Every time I come across this picture, it makes me smile. I love how he loves her.


Quote of the day


When a true genius appears in the world, you may know him by this sign, that the dunces are all in confederacy against him.

--Jonathon Swift

Thursday Flashback


18 July 2012

Something to prove

Oscar ' Bladerunner' Pistorius is ranked 17th in the world so an Olympic medal seems unlikely
Never underestimate the tenacity of someone who feels he has something to prove.
                                             -Alexgeorge

Quote of the day

You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.

--Winston Churchill

More of the same




If you say you 'dont like no drama', but you won't get rid of the people in your life that causes the drama,  even though myself and every one else agrees that you need to remove him from your life, and 100% of your contribution to our telephone conversations day after week after month after year after year are new bits of drama interspersed with the same old drama regarding the same person with every single phone call, despite the fact that you agree you need to stop dealing with this person because you ' don't like no drama,'


then you need to take that record off the victrola and play a new song because this one is skipping.


or before I snap.


17 July 2012

Happy Birthday

Diahann Carroll




 Best known for her title role in the 1968 television series Julia, which made her the first African American actress to star in her own  television series, she also starred with Dorothy Dandridge in Porgy  & Bess, and Carmen Jones, played Dominique Devereau on Dynasty,  and starred in one of my favorite movies of all time, Claudine, and so many other movies and television shows.


16 July 2012

President expresses loyalty to his barber


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Keep this in mind


               Let me repeat this.

                 POWERFUL PEOPLE CANNOT AFFORD TO EDUCATE THE PEOPLE THEY OPPRESS...BECAUSE ONCE YOU ARE TRULY EDUCATED, YOU WILL NOT ASK FOR POWER, YOU WILL TAKE IT.

I will email this blog entry to my 16 yr old nephew. I want him to be more than the Heisman Trophy winner he dreams of being. I want him to be well-educated and informed enough and competitive enough and qualified enough that he will not have to ask for power.

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The Greatest Trick

                           The greatest trick the devil ever pulled was convincing the world he doesn’t exist.
                                               --author unknown

15 July 2012

That's all I had to do




something in the way you made me feel.
not when you said we were friends
but when you acted like we weren't.
you know,
when I would call,
text,
email
often;
I bought souvenirs for your kids,
I even baked a cake for parties that I weren't  invited to.

& all I had to do was to stop communicating.
to stop hearing from you.

I've waited long enough
(not really waiting,
living my life)  for you to call or text or email 
to say something as simple as 
'wassup man, long time no hear. what have you been up to?'

& all I had to do was to stop communicating.
to stop hearing from you?

Maya Angelou says, 'when someone shows you who they really are, believe them'.

I believe you.

(note to self -stop communicating to find out who will wonder why they haven't heard from you. those that you will never hear from again, don't matter. except your family-
I used to call my sister alot. When I stopped calling her, I never heard from her again. Oh, I still leave happy birthday happy mother's day or merry christmas  voicemails on her phone when she doesn't answer. She never responds. This blog entry isn't about her though. It's for someone else. My sister just happens to do the same thing)






Dear White People

-- Justin Simien doesn't mind the possible comparisons to Spike Lee. Since the recent release of the trailer for his film Dear White People, a satire about black students' experience at PWIs (Predominantly White Institutions), many have noted the similarities between its take on race relations and Lee's own joints. (The clip already has more than 600,000 views on YouTube and has raised more than $41,400 on Indiegogo, surpassing its $25,000 fundraising goal.)
But, Simien says, the film is not just about race. "The movie to me is really about what it means to your identity when you are a thing that everyone around you has a preconception about," he explained. "And how that can really limit you, your potential, and in some ways, honestly, help you find yourself."
Simien used his own college years as inspiration, with the first few drafts culled from experiences such as when his suitemate was disappointed that the filmmaker couldn't teach him how to Crip Walk, or how people were obsessed with his hair. He talked with The Root about how Dear White People came to life and how he hopes it will spark much-needed cross-cultural conversations.
The Root: Why do you think it's so important for a movie like yours to be released now?

Justin Simien: We are coming out of this fantasy that we are postracial, and I just think … we have to challenge ourselves a little bit. There are a lot of people in the world who are just comfortable not really considering things from other perspectives. This film, what it hopefully will accomplish … is to put some very new perspectives out there about race and identity. It's important for black film. It's important for film, and it's being talked about in pretty much every format except for film right now. You have it in music, with comedians. You have books coming out about it -- How to Be Black [by Baratunde Thurston], Who's Afraid of Post-Racial Blackness? by TourĂ©.
TR: Race and identity are satirized heavily in the film. Did you take any inspiration from comedians?
JS: Dave Chappelle is one of the first people to break through and have this really major crossover appeal commenting about the black experience. Donald Glover, who I'm just a tremendous fan of, who's on Community, has a rap persona as well. His commentary about being a black nerd is something that was inspiring. Aaron McGruder's The Boondocks, too, was just a huge inspiration. It was funny, extreme satire and … it just went there unapologetically. You know, Martin Luther King waking up [from a coma] and being call a socialist was the most ridiculous, amazing piece of television [laughs].
 
TR: What was your character development process like?
JS: There was always [characters like] a Sam, a Coco, a Troy and a Lionel ever since I started writing the script in 2005. It's really hard for me as a writer to really talk about any major topics, such as identity, from one point of view. So, I love ensemble movies -- Do the Right Thing, Election, The Royal Tenenbaums and Insane. Those movies are such an inspiration to me because you see this one thing dissected from all these different points of [view]. Sam, her voice was definitely developed through the Twitter account @DearWhitePeople; that's where I really honed her in a little bit as a funny, Angela-Davis-Malcolm X-Huey-Lisa-Bonet-type of amalgamation [laughs]. The other characters were culled from people I knew and experiences that I had personally.
TR: How has the film changed since you wrote it in 2005?

JS: When I first started writing it, I was fresh out of film school. I don't think I was a strong enough writer to write a script like this. At the time, it was called Two Percent … and it was just a series of episodes. Myself and the other producers all met in writers' groups where I was working on some version of it. That's where we all became friends and decided to do this project together. It really wasn't until two years ago when I felt a sense of urgency about it all of a sudden. We then took it to a workshop and did it with actors -- that was such a profound moment because I think we all heard it for the first time and were like, "Wow, this is the movie, this is a real story and it works."
Jade O. Earle is an editorial intern at The Root. 


--courtesy, the Root

14 July 2012

Protection

Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you.
--Luke 10:19 Kjv

A Proverb


12 July 2012

SMDH

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Quote of the day- Bill Cosby


"I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please every body."



By the way- This billionaire ( and mentor to Oprah) might have been broke or an up and coming comedian when he coined that quote, but he does know the key to success.

One of these things really is like the other

By now, we've all heard about Mitt Romney getting booed at an NAACP event recently. Well, after that, he spoke  to a crowd at a fundraiser in Hamilton, Montana:

"By the way, I had the privilege of speaking today at the NAACP convention in Houston and I gave them the same speech I am giving you. I don't give different speeches to different audiences alright. I gave them the same speech. When I mentioned I am going to get rid of Obamacare they weren't happy, I didn't get the same response. That's ok, I want people to know what I stand for and if I don't stand for what they want, go vote for someone else, that's just fine. But I hope people understand this, your friends who like Obamacare, you remind them of this, if they want more stuff from government tell them to go vote for the other guy-more free stuff. But don't forget nothing is really free."

Shortly after the speech, Rachel Maddow reported on Romney's remark, noting its problematic undertones in the context of racial politics.

"It seemed like Mitt Romney wanted to get booed at the NAACP this morning," Maddow said. "He wanted to wear that around his neck like a badge of courage. It looks like he is not wasting any time in doing so."
Romney has used similar language throughout his presidential bid. During an event in Florida earlier this year, when confronted by a young voter who voice support for "free birth control," Romney quipped:

"If you’re looking for free stuff you don’t have to pay for? Vote for the other guy, that’s what he’s all about, okay? That’s not, that’s not what I’m about."

Criticism of Obama's Affordable Care Act has proved to be an uncomfortable line of attack for Romney, who as governor of Massachusetts introduced comprehensive health care reform that has drawn comparisons to Obama's. The state law includes provisions for much of the same "free stuff" that Obamacare does, including an individual mandate.











Been such long time, I forgot that I was fine...

11 July 2012

Regardless


I could lose a few pounds.
I know that.
I work out every day.
I walk about 4 miles daily.
I don't use the elevator at work;
I use the staircase.
I only eat food that nourishes my body.
I usually nurse a total of 2 beers during an evening with friends.
I don't smoke,
Cigarettes.
Someone I loved  recently told me I was fat,
but you know what?
they're fat themselves.
I mean baby hippopotamus fat.
they don't even work out.
they eat pizza and/or chicken and/or tacos and drink soda at every lunch and dinner.
they go to all-you-can-eat buffets after church on sundays.
I would have never said to them what they said to me.
I lost 23 lbs since the last time they saw me.
it didn't matter.

I'll never be on the cover of a fitness magazine.
I'll never look anorexic enough for them.
but my nephew and my God-daughter don't care what I look like.
they love me
and they're always very happy to see me.
regardless.
Just like God.
In May, I informed my sister-in law  and God daughter that I would be in town in a month. That same day my God-daughter changed the sheets, pillow cases, and blanket in the guest room, and she even got towels  and a fresh bar of soap set out for me, a month ahead. She asked her mom and dad every day if  'Uncle Alieux is coming today.'
It was like Christmas for her.
she's 6.

That's the best feeling in the world.

to be loved regardless of how others make me feel about myself.

Just like God.

I will

  1. give God the glory 7 days a week
  2. stop comparing myself to others
  3. stop being afraid to speak up
  4. love myself first
  5. push myself to do what I say I'm going to do
  6. choose to be happy
  7. be loved
  8. be respected
  9. have high expectations for myself
  10. find a way to make some money off my baking

Don't Settle

We are not held back by the love we didn't receive in the past, but by the love we're not extending in the present.

-Marianne Williamson 

 

Be fearful of mediocrity


#dontsettle

10 July 2012

Am I the only one?


or sometimes do you also feel that the more you get to know people (blogosphere and some others excluded) the more you like roaches?

#justathought

Note to self

                            Life is like a mirror: It'll smile at you if you smile at it.

 #food4thought

Overheard on the Max this morning

Being in a relationship is a full time job. Don't apply if you're not ready.

#dontsleep


            In a gentle way, you can shake the world. – Mahatma Gandhi


Happy Birthday, Mavis Staples!

She turns 73 today.






U came 2 me
Said give U more time
Time 2 get yourself 2gether
Time 2 make up your mind
I want 4ever love
U want a one night fantasy
While I'm sittin' here waitin' on U
U know somebody somewhere's waitin' on me 

Once is enough

You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.
- Mae West

09 July 2012

Note to self

Sometimes life doesn't want to give you something you want, not because you don't deserve it, but because you deserve more. 

#foodforthought

The stupidest thing I heard today.

I always feel encouraged to have lowered expectations as I get to know people so that I am not shocked when they say something I consider to be the stupidest (is that a word?) thing I have ever heard, today.

A friend of mine used to listen to Frank Ocean on Spotify.com. along with Lil Wayne and Nicki Minaj ( I tried not to judge him on the latter 2) on a daily basis, and today he said:
"I used to love his song thinking about you, but it's obvious he's talking about some guy. I can't be liking a song that another guy is singing about a guy. It's as if  I was singing a song about a guy."

Yes, honestly, he said that. I didn't respond at first because I was waiting for his serious face to crack a smile,and for him to laugh and say something like "yo man i'm just playing,"   but he was serious.

I told him that "smart intelligent people shock me sometimes. That stupid dumb ass comment will now make me question any future comments that you make about anything."

And he had no idea why I thought that what he said was stupid..

08 July 2012

Barack Obama’s empathy edge

"You know, there's a lot of talk in this country about the federal deficit. But I think we should talk more about our empathy deficit - the ability to put ourselves in someone else's shoes; to see the world through the eyes of those who are different from us - the child who's hungry, the steelworker who's been laid-off, the family who lost the entire life they built together when the storm came to town. When you think like this - when you choose to broaden your ambit of concern and empathize with the plight of others, whether they are close friends or distant strangers - it becomes harder not to act; harder not to help."

— Barack Obama
*****
Presidential elections are rarely won and lost on policy. Voters instead tend to choose the person they most want to be president based on who they like. And that feeling is heavily influenced by which of the candidates they believe best understands their hopes and dreams.

Call it the empathy factor. And it matters. A lot.

New national polling done by the Washington Post and ABC News shows that President Obama has a significant edge over former Massachusetts governor Mitt Romney on the empathy question — although the gap between the two men has narrowed slightly since February.
Asked which man “better understands the economic problems people in this country are having”, 49 percent of people said Obama while 37 percent named Romney. Nine percent said neither man understood the economic problems of regular people while two percent said both men did.
A look inside the numbers tells a similar story. Among electorally critical independents, Obama enjoys a 47 percent to 35 percent edge over Romney. Women favor Obama over Romney by 20 points on the empathy question.
Republicans in search of a silver lining in the numbers will note that as recently as an early February Post-ABC survey, Obama held a 17-point edge on the empathy question.
In our mind, tracking how the two candidates perform on this question between now and November is the single best measure (or at least one of them) of how the race will turn out.

--courtesy the Washington Post 

Are you praying?  We can't be complacent. We can't have our eyes closed.


Are
you 
praying?


#dontsleep

 

I will save this song

for the woman most deserving of me and my love

06 July 2012

The Prayer of Mathematics

"Dear God,

         I'm not always a good judge of character. I try to see the good in people, and sometimes there is no goodness in them, but I will still look for it. Sometimes I think that people can't possibly mistreat people who treat them well, but I know that's me being naive. My mother raised me to believe in reaping and sowing, so being evil on indifferent in return is not in my DNA. Dear Lord,   please subtract from my life, people who don't mean me well, people who are anchors whose only purpose in life is to weigh me down, instigators, liars, hypocrites, fair-weather friends, users, those who call me friend but treat me like that friend of the family that always assumes he's invited and shows up to events, those who invite me to events only after everyone else has been invited and they made the mistake of mentioning the event to me, those who don't have the courage to tell me to leave them alone,   those who make me feel like I don't measure up to them, and people who will prevent me from being who and what You and I want me to be,  and, dear Lord,  please add to my life, the exact opposite, and that is, people who actually care about me, who want me to be happy and want me to do well on this journey  I call life. Amen "

This is my prayer every morning.    Interesting though; I try to be as cool as receptive and as funny and as sweet and as reliable as I can be, and sometimes I wonder why some friends automatically drop off, never to be heard from again. Sometimes I even call and text them, leaving messages, 'hoping that they're okay,' and they don't respond.

Then I realize, God is answering my prayer. He's filtering out all the anchors, all the albatrosses, all the fakers, all the  liars, the fair-weather friends, those that either don't mean me well or don't care about me. Like I asked.

02 July 2012

I just kissed the softest lips that God has ever made

Arizona




Black to the future




from  http://theafrodisia.blogspot.com/

Keep your mouth shut

It makes no difference to me whether or not Socrates actually developed this test, said it or lived it.  Regardless of its source, the value of the test is fundamental.  As the story goes, Socrates advises that you apply this test before you repeat a rumor.
  • Is it true?  If it’s not, keep your mouth shut.
  • Is it good?  If it’s not, don’t repeat it if you are not certain it is true.
  • Is it useful?  If what you are about to say is neither true, good or useful, there is no point in repeating it.

01 July 2012

Easier said than done

Sometimes You Can’t Find Something Until You Stop Looking For It.

Right here, right now

And every day, the world will drag you by the hand, yelling "This is important! And this is important! And this is important! You need to worry about this! And this! And this!"

And each day, it's up to you, to yank your hand back, put it on your heart and say "No. This is what's important." 

--author unknown

Note to self


BE Basement Elevation

Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.
--Albert Einstein